The Incredible Praise-to-Criticism Ratio

One quality I have always observed in people is how they use their tongues. Do you promote healing? Does you build up? Or do you criticize, condemn and destroy? (Yes. Sarcasm fits into the destructive category, I'm afraid.) "There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, But the tongue of the wise brings healing." - Proverbs 12:18 It is said that it takes several compliments to undo the damage of one criticism. Harvard says effective...

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Get Your Hopes (and Your Goals) Up!

Get your hopes and goals up! Generally-speaking, you're going to get just about what you expect so why not expect more? My own experience is in line with this.  In so many areas of my life, I've accomplished my goals. What I realized, however, is that I've still been sighting my sights too low. So I sat down yesterday for a redo. I recast my goals. You should do the same!  I'm going to celebrate my victories and press higher.  I'm...

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It's OKAY to be Excited!

I see so many people stifle their enthusiasm about people, events, themselves, their future.  They say things like "Today has been great... so far." or "I actually enjoyed that movie."  It's like someone is going to punish them for showing genuine joy and excitement about something.  Or... and this is true oftentimes... they have a hard time praising one thing without criticizing the other.  Shame! However, as Ralph Waldo Emerson...

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How to Raise Your Level (Part 2)

In the previous blog, we talked about The Thermostat Principle.  Now, as promised, here are the first five things you need to change to adjust your thermostat settings! 1. Your thinking: As a man or woman THINKS in their heart... What is the content of your thinking? Challenge yourself to think about higher thoughts, to dream bigger dreams. Because your thoughts become your speech... 2. Your speaking: Death and life are in the power...

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How to Raise Your Level (Part 1)

“As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” If we really understood those words, it would change our lives. I can tell you the very day I got on the path to true success because it was the day that I realized that the whole process started between my ears! I was then and I am now what I believed I was. You are who you think you are! No more. No less. In your heart or soul - the collection of your mind, emotions and will - you have created a definition...

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