Stop Trying to Fix Your Spouse (Or Other People)!

Don Purdum and I are getting great feedback on our hangouts! Here's another link for you if you need it: or just click the link below to check out. This time we're talking about this urge to want to fix our spouses, partners and others around us instead of working on ourselves. As my mothers says "looking out the window instead of looking in the mirror."

I mention one of my favorite quotes in this short talk... "In necessariis unitas, in dubiis libertas, in omnibus caritas" (commonly translated as "unity in necessary things; liberty in doubtful things; charity in all things" or more literally as "in necessary things unity; in uncertain things freedom; in everything compassion") and it is one of my most treasured Latin phrases. I try to live my life by it in many ways. It is often misattributed to St. Augustine of Hippo, but seems to have been first used in the 17th century by the Archbishop Marco Antonio de Dominis.

The bottom line is we have to learn how to focus the core values we need to share and agree upon... allow that reasonable people can have different views on many other issues... but be gracious in all of it. Now, I hope Don and I have an opportunity to talk about these core values the next time we get together. I hope you can decide what these are for you and your relationships and be gracious enough to let other issues work themselves out. I think this is a mistake singles make while dating, too, thinking that you have to see eye-to-eye on everything or you don't have a match.

So what the video and tell us what you think. Then let me know what else can we talk about for you!

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