Why This Abstinence Thing Is Starting to Bug Me.

I am about to make an open confession to which many of you will immediately think "That doesn't sound like Mark...or maybe it does? I'm confused."

I am not a huge fan of Christians celebrating years of abstinence. I don't have a magic calculation for this, but I think after a certain amount of time (years? decades?) maybe you're testifying to something negative instead of something positive - you have trouble sustaining healthy relationships that lead to long-term partnerships and marriage.

If you are single (and especially if you are a Believing Christian), you should not be having sex.  Clearly there are those who have a gift of staying single and dedicating themselves to the Lord's work. Clearly these people are in the minority by gifting. At least I think so. I think the majority of the perpetually single that I'm coming across these days are hard to sustain relationships with and when those efforts blow up, they allow them the excuse that they're living for God.

Take it for what it's worth. I am not saying go get a copy of the Kama Sutra and a jumbo pack of condoms and make it happen. I'm saying focus on getting healed and into healthy relationships. This seems better and healthier to me than spending your most fruitful years trying to keep it in your pants.

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