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3/13/13

Pride & Singleness


A lot of you are not single because you can't find anyone, but because you're too proud. You meet people, you date and you stay together for a while until... until... until they give you some feedback you don't like. That's when you decide they aren't for you. You two just aren't a match.

Being in a long-term relationship with anyone requires you to change - a lot - but the conventional wisdom these days is everybody should just take you the way you are. Right? God forbid you should have to mature, be selfless, consider other people, apologize when you're wrong or adjust your priorities!

Relationships require you to walk in a lot of humility and accommodation. Perhaps it is your unwillingness to bend that keeps you alone? Despite what all the Facebook graphics are telling you, rigidity is not a good thing.

Basically, if you don't have what you want in your life right now and find that you're never able to build anything that lasts, you probably need to change.  Yes.  YOU need to change.

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3/4/13

Insecurities



Here's the video from one of our longest Hangouts so far!  Don and I really got open about insecurities, criticisms and other things that hinder you from having healthy, whole and happy relationships.  Here's the VIDEO Check it out. Let me know what you think!

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Admit it. You still believe in fairy tales.



Do you know why fairy tales are called fairy tales?  They are called fairy tales because they almost all involve fairies (duh!) or some other kind of magical being.  In each one of them, this magical creature sees the woeful plight of the hero or heroine and swoops in to wave a wand, cast a spell or brew a potion that saves the day.  In a flash of light, all is well and everyone lives happily ever after.

Most people live like they have a fairy god mother hovering over them waiting to grant their heart's deepest desire with three wishes - especially when it comes to dating and marriage.  I'm making up a new term right here, right now. From here forward I'm calling most modern Christian dating the "Someday My Prince Will Come" Method of dating. It's the "I will sit here in my tower and wait until something happens" kind of attitude.  It doesn't work that way in the real world.  The Lord has set up a system that relies upon sowing and reaping.  It applies to everything.

The vast majority of women who confide in me that they're tired of being single also admit that they never go out on dates (even when asked), never approach or accept approaches from men and rarely go anywhere except work and church.  A friend posted on my Facebook page, "I have been to many women and singles retreats and the topic of staying pure aka saving sex for marriage and waiting is always talked about and encouraged. However, the discussion of dating has not been discussed or encouraged. That's why I believe most women are stuck at home, work and church because they are waiting for their future husband to sweep them off their feet."

I agree with her. One comment I hear often is "A man will have to go through God to get to me." and it drives me CRAZY!!! How exactly is a man supposed to do that? Do you give him a basic theology quiz when he asks you out? Do you pray a couple of days before responding to his asking you to meet him for coffee? It makes no sense to me! He didn't ask you to marry him. He asked you to go to TGI Fridays! 

Overall, I am at an age now where a lot of my female friends thought "Someday my prince will come" while many others took chances to get to know people. Now the ones who put off so many opportunities are regretting it. Some admit. Some don't admit. But most acknowledge that there's a good reason those stories of magical rescue are called fairy tales. It's because they happen about as often as you've seen a fairy... which is to say probably never.

Disney has screwed you up.  They make good movies, but Disney is not a great relationship counselor.

Go out on a doggone date!

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3/3/13

Good People In Your Corner


Everybody fights better with good people in their corner.  People who are willing to wipe the sweat out of your eyes, bandage up your cuts, encourage you and send you back into the fight.  You need those people if you ever attempt to do anything at all with your life.  I'm not even talking yet about living a life of significance.  I'm talking about just doing anything at all.  Life is tough.  Don't try to go it alone.

I know people a little bit.  Most of you reading this are carrying burdens that are really troubling you.  Yet not enough of the right people know what your challenges are.  Therefore, they can't help you.  Your silence is keeping you in a worse situation than you need to be in.

I've learned this the good way and the bad way.  I have some great people in my corner now, but that hasn't always been the case because I WOULD NOT LET PEOPLE SEE THE REAL ME.  They were always good people, but shutting them out didn't allow them to know how to pray, how to help, how to encourage.

You were not designed to live in isolation.  "A brother is born for adversity" a wise man once said.  That means that you have people around you just because the Lord knew you were going to need someone one day.  We are there for each other to lean on.  Don't be so proud as to not ask for help or accept it when it's offered.  You might be cutting off someone else's blessing and destroying opportunities to develop real intimacy.

That's my only point to this blog today.  Let people know what's going on with you.  Let them help you.

Mark










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2/20/13

7 Ways to Make Social Media Work Harder for You


Kind of jumping straight to the point here... I want to share a few tips and tricks with you that are easy to use but also easy to forget to use.  Check these out!

Remember, if you like these and want more, check out The Expert Excellence Webinar (c) - Position Yourself, Promote and Profit as an Expert on  Tuesday, February 26, 2013 from 6:00 PM to 8:00 PM (CST)!   In fact, YOU NEED to be a part of this training.  Your career needs it!

1. Increase your "Likes" on your page!  You can email all of your non-Facebook contacts and invite them to "Like" your Facebook fan or business page! Here's how:


  • Click on "Build Audience" to the upper right once you are on your business page. 
  • You will see a menu of options. Click on "Invite E-mail Contacts" 
  • You will see options to contact your Yahoo!, Comcast, AOL and other address books there. Click on one (Yahoo!, for example) and follow the instructions to import your contacts.
  • You can also contact up to 5000 people from your Outlook Address Book if you choose "Other Tools" and upload your Outlook address book. LinkedIn is one of your options, as well!  You will have to "Export" your contacts from those sources first, but it's not too hard.  Good luck!
This should help your social media marketing be more successful if you can reconnect with people who you've known and done business with outside of Facebook! It is said that every like is worth money, so there may be money you're leaving behind right now.

2.  Get a better name!  Use this link to shorten your web domains on Facebook: http://facebook.com/username It makes you much easier to find and gives you a sharper online image.

3. Upgrade your graphics!  Do you see most of the graphics on my blog? They cost my $5 each through Fiverr.com and were all done in 2-3 days. I'm happy to have upgraded my visual presentations! Now I'll get someone who knows Wordpress to work on the entire blog. But that's for another day! If you want to go a level higher, I recommend LogoLoft.com.  I've used them a few times with great results!

4. Harvest your content!  Did you know you can download a copy of everything you've ever posted on Facebook? I just did and I have a file of all my Status Updates, etc since 2008! This is a great thing because I am going to be able to go back and capture some of the best stuff for use in my blogs and other writings!

5.  Measure your influence!  I might be the last person to have discovered this, but if you add Klout for Google Chrome to your browser (assuming you use Chrome, as I do) it shows you everyone's Klout score as you Tweet. Your's too! They say "What gets measured gets done" and this is a simple way to measure your impact.

6.  Join a community!  FINALLY....Join my Expert Excellence Facebook Page!  If you are a writer, speaker, coach, trainer, author or ANYTHING that fits into the "Expert" market space, you need to be a part of this group! Nothing against motivational quotes and scriptures, but that's not what this group is for. This group is all about "shop talk" and exchanging tips, resources, etc. that will HELP YOU BUILD YOUR BUSINESS.

Please recommend it to someone else for whom you think it will be a great resource! Also read down the page a little...there is some great content and advice on the page and more is coming! The philosophy of the page is simple...if you know where the water is, point it out to other thirsty folks!!!

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2/11/13

Can I Go 40 Days Without TV?

Lent is coming up. If you observe it, what are you sacrificing this year? I was thinking about giving up coffee, but television is starting to come to the front of my mind.

Just in case you want to join in with me, I've set up an Event Page on Facebook for us!

What is Lent and when is it?

Lent is a season of the Christian Year where Christians focus on simple living, prayer, and fasting in order to grow closer to God. It's the forty days before Easter. Lent excludes Sundays because every Sunday is like a little Easter. Basically, it's about one-tenth of a year (like a tithe of time). Mardi Gras is the day before Lent, which begins with Ash Wednesday. This year it's from February 13 until March 30, 2013.


My gut is that I will get some comments along the lines of my no fast-food challenge - lots of people telling me they NEVER eat the stuff. Yet these fast food industry is doubling in size something like daily? With television, I will get 100 people telling me how they haven't seen a television in decades. In fact, what is a television?

My faith family observes Lent.  The whole idea is to join in sacrificing as did Christ.  Also, you use the time to draw closer to God.  You focus on prayer and time in the scriptures and on service all while denying your flesh.  You use the time to focus on your true purpose and priorities... something I really need in this season.

So I am thinking television is going to be out of my life for a little while.  Somebody let me know what I miss.

What are you sacrificing?  









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2/10/13

7 More Things I Learned from Hip Hop...


I've already confessed to being a Hip Hop Head. Don't hold it too much against me. I find inspiration from unusual places sometimes. I have loved rap music since my dad brought Kurtis Blow's single "The Breaks" home for us to listen to.  There are some lessons that I've learned from it over the years that have helped me in life. Here are some more of my favorites.  For those already standing in judgment, I can assure you that I have my ears and soul in high filter most all the time.  Don't worry about me too much and, if you do, just pray...

1. "On the the next one!" ~Jay Z

Whether you've experienced success or a moment of failure, living forward is the best approach to a successful life.  When Paul speaks of pressing forward, he is not talking about leaving his mistakes behind.  He is talking about leaving his successes behind and striving for God's best for him.  Unintentionally, Jay Z was preaching.

2. "If you ain't got money, you better have hustle. Then when you get yo money, you can add some muscle." ~ 2 Chainz

Use what you have.  Lack of money is NEVER an acceptable excuse when it comes to pursuing your purpose.  If you can't go after it no matter the difficulties, perhaps you don't deserve it anyway.    As Dr. Benjamin Carson said recently: "Don't accept excuses and don't offer any either. When you stop allowing excuses, people start looking for solutions."  Use what you have at your disposal.  When you get more, then use that, too.

3. “You know what it is. Everything I do, I do it big!” ~Wiz Khalifa

Wiz Khalifa... unfortunately appearing to be in a marijuana-induced haze 99% of the time... makes a great point.  "Go BIG or go home!" is what they used to say.  Indeed.  There is something to be said for the way a certain amount of boastful confidence can move you forward in life.

4. "Now everybody loves Kanye. I'm almost Raymond." ~Kanye West

You can't be swayed by the crowds.  They are fickle.  Even Jesus knew this.  You have to be purpose-driven from beginning to end.  One day people will hate you and the next they will love you and "they" will sometimes swing back and forth between the two.  Stay focused and true to your calling regardless.


5. "You believe in God. But can you handle it when it's hard?" ~Juvenile

Whoever thought Juve would become a preacher?!  This is a true word.  Do you have faith that God's Word is true or not?  It all comes down to that.

6. "I get my energy from my Inner G." ~Lupe Fiasco

I like Lupe.  Lupe is authentic and seems to be transparent at all turns.  True enthusiasm comes from the inside as spring welling up from your spirit as my pastor likes to talk about.  It is a renewable resource and not dependent upon good circumstances.  In fact, real energy must be independent of circumstances because you have to go back to it for strength when everything around you says you should give up.  I believe you can only get that kind of energy from God.


7. “You gotta have style and learn to be original.” ~Boogie Down Productions

NOBODY pays attention to a copy.  The world only hears unique voices.  Echoes are neat side shows, but contain no new information so people don't pay much for them.  It's funny.  I was watching "Something from Nothing: The Art of Rap" and a recurring theme was how the first thing most acts had to do to succeed is find their own voice.  MC Lyte, Salt, B-Real and others talked about spending hours just walking around their living rooms working on perfecting their voice.  B-Real was told at one point "We like you, but you're fired if you can't sound like YOU instead of like somebody else!"  He got the message.

What are you learning from what you're listening to?  Wisdom is all around but all true wisdom comes from God's Word.  I just like the way others package it at times.









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2/7/13

"I'm not saying it's right... but I understand!"


Happy Birthday, Mr. Rock.

I will admit right off that I had to Wikipedia you a while back because I couldn't believe your real last name was really "Rock" because it is awesomeness!  You're a funny guy. No question.  If I am honest, I appreciate hearing your stories of how hard you had to work to develop yourself, your worldview and your career maybe more than I appreciate your comedy.  Yes, it looks easy from the outside.  But I understand that comedy is a craft and among the most difficult to master and building a mega-career out of it is an amazing feat.  You've done exceptionally well.


I appreciate THIS INTERVIEW you did with Marc Maron a while back because it encouraged me to keep pressing through hardship and doubt.  Thank you for your transparency.  You don't know how many people are impacted by your words.

Again, all the best!

Sincerely,


Mark Anthony











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2/5/13

Consumer or Producer: Which Are You?


Focus first on finding where YOU can add value as opposed to where value can be added to you and watch how you're blessed from it!  We had a good conversation about this on my Live BIG Die Empty Facebook page recently.  The common wisdom these days is all about what people can do for you...


What a horrible testimony!  Listen to my Google+ Hangout with Don Purdum this week as we talk about consuming vs. producing and what this has to do with healthy relationships and successful business.



I really think you'll enjoy this talk.  Let me know what you think.








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10 Ways to Live BIGGER!


If the past year wasn't everything you expected, don't live in regret. If 2013 hasn't start the way you wanted, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!! Get the tools you need to dream bigger dreams, set higher goals and accomplish them! Learn to plan, take action and GET UNSTUCK!

When: Thursday, February 21 @ 8:00 PM Central Time

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You don't want to miss this! It only takes one right idea and the right time to change your future. Here's the way I see it: You can learn from my mistakes or you can make your own. Learning from some of mine is free and painless. Learning from your own hurts a helluva lot and costs a lot, too!

After participating in this call, you will understand...

* The basic components you need to understand in order to set and achieve meaningful goals.
* Steps you can take to create instant momentum in your life.
* How to let go of past failures, regrets, guilt and shame.

I will even go over my recommended reading list. My sincere hope is that 2013 will be a season of shifting for you as you begin to grab hold of everything God has for you!

Also, if you want to work with me privately, please e-mail me at mark@livebigdieempty.com. I can take on a few more people. This is serious now and it's time to be diligent. When I work with you one-on-one, we get specific about action items and accountability so that you get clarity and change!

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This is a FREE coaching call. It will be well worth your time. If you like it and want more, check out The Live BIG! Die Empty. Purpose & Empowerment Webinar© on Tuesday, March 5, 2013 from 6:00 PM to 8:00 PM (CST)!









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